No love from husband

Aarti

Referring the blog: http://wp.me/ptUIO-2f

Very nice post!

But I have a doubt in mind. In my case, I and my husband got married 3 years back. He said he loved me and asked my father for our marriage. My father agreed (I also liked him). But, his parents were not ready for this (still they keep torturing me for the same) at the time of our marriage.

He was engaged to one girl forcefully by his parents. That girl use to torture him and dominate him for everything. We were friends at that time. He realized his love for me and approached my father for the same.

But after marriage everything changed. His parents tortured us though we are not staying together. He never loved me the way a husband loves his wife. Not even for the initial few days. Till date he has not said anything good to me, and no intimacy between us since we got married.

I never got emotional and physical love, which every girl dreams of when she is about to get married. I asked him to go to a doctor many times, but he never accepted he has any problems. I have cried a lot in front of him, but he laughs. How he can laugh when I am crying if he said he loved me?

This had been happening right from the start. I am frustrated. Now, I get a feeling he is not right person for me. Last three weeks I am crying telling him how I feel, for which he has an answer, “I don’t know why I behave like this”. Can’t he see my pain?

Also, he is very selfish he only think of himself. He does not give me any respect. I am angry and frustrated. I am 32 years old waiting for my husband to love me. I don’t have time as I want a baby also, but before that I want a good loving and a caring husband.

Now, if I feel I should divorce him. Am I feeling wrong? Also don’t I deserve love and physical intimacy from my husband? Am I asking too much?

He says do whatever I feel is right. If I feel I should divorce him, he says to go ahead and do it. Why did he marry me? I feel just to get rid of that previous girl.

As I understand I don’t nag him for anything. What should I do should I divorce him? Will I have a good life? Please help me.

Naran

Most of the times, women suffer much at the hands of husbands.

Take the flower remedy AGRIMONY and SWEET CHESTNUT, two pills, three times a day.

Chant “I AM SORRY PLEASE FORGIVE ME I LOVE YOU I THANK YOU”

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They don’t understand women’s concern

Geetha came to see me. She is 39-years old and an IT professional. She is the youngest in the family. Except her, everyone is married in her family.

Geetha

The only person I love is my father. He is very nice and understanding, even though at times he is rude to us – me and my mother, especially to my mother.

Naran

Do you have any male friends, even if they are your colleagues?

Geetha

Nope. I consider most of them are male chauvinistic. Of course, some of them are very friendly. But, I don’t find any of them seems to understand women’s concern and plight in this male-dominating world.

No doubt she is not married. When you don’t have a good opinion about the opposite sex, how will you get married? In turn, they will sense your anger sub-consciously and will stay away from you.

Of course, I didn’t tell her this. As they are strong beliefs, it will be very difficult to convince otherwise.

Naran

• Divide your age by 3, and heal all the parts.

Geetha

I don’t remember what happened during my childhood. How can I bring them to my consciousness?

Naran

It doesn’t matter. When you say, ‘I am putting my memories from age 0-13 into the Silver Triangle’, those memories will be automatically be placed inside the triangle.

• Now, heal your mother, find out when she got married, divide the age by 3, and heal all her parts.
• Heal her life till you were born.
• Heal your womb state.

The reason for healing the memories of the mother is, during one of the fighting episodes with her father, her mother would have thought, ‘I wish I am not married. Then I need not have gone through this” or “I wish not to have a baby-girl. Then she need not go through hell like me”. 

These thoughts would have affected Geetha’s decisions against getting married. Of course, it is not in her awareness and therefore, she won’t be able to heal it.

• Do the healing for your father.

She will be having mixed feelings about her father which would have made her form opinions about husbands in general. So she needs to heal them as well.

May you are blessed with a loving and a caring husband. Good Luck!!!

Career never took off

KC

I am 41 years old. My biggest disappointment is my career never really took off.

I was a bright student and topped university during master’s degree. The work opportunities that I got were after much hard work.

But the things never worked out at the workplace for some reason or the other. I always had problems with superiors. I had to quit and undergo humiliation.

In my life, most of the women I have encountered in the form of neighbours, friends, mother-in-law, boss, sister-in-law, sister, sometimes even mother, have shown and experienced their hatred and jealous side. I have suffered much humiliation.

The surprising part was when I analyse was they all wanted me to be under their control. I suffered and still suffering when I tried to free myself.

Money has always been a problem. Life at times seem directionless to me.

Naran

Analyse what you want.

Analyse your weak points within.

Judge yourself.

Classify yourself.

Find out which behaviour of yours or which belief or which opinion about others prevents you from getting affection from others.

Make a list and try not to behave in the same old fashion.

Chant, “I AM SORRY! PLEASE FORGIVE ME! I LOVE YOU! I THANK YOU DIVINE!” whenever you meet a person.

Let this run in your mind throughout.